December 28, 2002
Picture this, in a bedroom with an adjoining bath: music blasting, loud talking and five women in their underwear, ironing clothes, fixing each other's hair, gossiping, joking, laughing, putting on makeup and not letting any men in the room.
I suddenly realized how much I missed my family--the mess, the noise, the yelling, the hugging, the helping. What a way to start Christmas Eve.
Before I moved here in August, all my kids lived with me except my kids lived with me except my oldest daughter Kristina. Then my second daughter, Jennifer, and her daughter Adias, moved to Oklahoma. My son, Erik, stayed in Decatur to be with his girlfriend. My forth child, Jessica, moved to Virginia for college and my daughter, Regina (still in high school), moved with us. So the "empty nest" feeling was hard upon me. Having them all home for Christmas made me miss them even and realize how precious they all are.
This was the slowest and most wonderful week of the year 2002. We spent Christmas Day at home alone, if you call ten people in a house "alone." We went to the movies and saw Lord of the Rings, The Two Towers. The next day we went tot he Museum of Science and Industry in Chicago. Of course Dad was with us and we all had a great time. I bathed him on the night before so he didn't have to take a bath that morning. It was hustle and bustle in the house with so many people and only two bathrooms!
I told Dad we were going for a ride and he was good with that. He went willingly into the car and seemed happy. At the museum we had a little wait before we were able to rent a wheelchair; Dad became impatient due to all the noise and crowds. But the kids were having a great time and once we got started, they took turns pushing his wheelchair. Each one would take time to talk to Dad, pointing things out for him or just saying, "I love you," He smiled each time they offered a little extra attention.
The museum had an area lined with Christmas trees from all over the world. We walked down the aisle and Dad kept telling us to , "Hurry now." But when we got to the section with the old-fashioned cars and fire engines, he seemed to calm down and enjoy himself. Before we left, we stopped at the old ice cream parlor for a treat. Thee was a long line, and Dad lost patience while we waited, but brightened up once he got his ice cream.
On the 27th of December we had an Open House. I thought this might be a good opportunity for Dad to see his family land some of his old friends. I'd discovered that many people were uncomfortable around Dad now, and they found many reasons not to stop by. I decided that an Open House, with Dad surrounded by his family, would make their visit a little less uncomfortable. These people all remembered Dad before he was sick and didn't want to see him in his current state. In any case, we all had a wonderful time. Dad even danced for everyone.
The next day the kids began to leave but that evening we went to a family reunion on my mother=in-law's side of the family. We had a great time.
My children are certainly getting an education on Alzheimer's. They have seen their Grandfather show the ugly side when he gets upset and acts like a child, fighting , kicking and swearing. but they also can see his nice side, when Dad tells them he loves them or asks them how they are doing. They are learning to be caregivers, not letting him get up without his walker or fetching him drinks when he asks. They have learned to be patient when he asked the same thing over and over again.
They can't believe how he doesn't sleep at night, as they hear me get up repeatedly and put him back to bed. They also had time to enjoy him. We did karaoke and , while Dad didn't sing he did get up and dance.. They made him a part of the family, just as if he always was like this from the beginning.
Remember, life is a gift from God, so please obey His will and enjoy His gift. Live each five minutes like it is your last.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint of James A. Rock & Co., Pub.
www.mariefostino.com
Friday, December 26, 2008
Wednesday, December 24, 2008
Merry Christmas,
I have to apologize because I have not been on here for about ten days. My computer caught a virus and it has taken this long to get it fixed. My son in law Arin, who works for Dell has been slaving over this machine the last 4 days and finally has it up and running.
Hope you remember the meaning of Christmas. It is when God let his Son Jesus come to earth and be born to the virgin Mary so that he could save our sins.
I have to say that I am enjoying this holiday with family. All my grandchildren will be here tomorrow and Christmas is for kids. I can't wait till they see the stockings under the tree and than watch there little faces as they open up their gifts.
Merry Christmas, and Happy New Year.
Love and God Bless You All,
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint Of James A. Rock @ Co., Pub.
www.mariefostino.com
I have to apologize because I have not been on here for about ten days. My computer caught a virus and it has taken this long to get it fixed. My son in law Arin, who works for Dell has been slaving over this machine the last 4 days and finally has it up and running.
Hope you remember the meaning of Christmas. It is when God let his Son Jesus come to earth and be born to the virgin Mary so that he could save our sins.
I have to say that I am enjoying this holiday with family. All my grandchildren will be here tomorrow and Christmas is for kids. I can't wait till they see the stockings under the tree and than watch there little faces as they open up their gifts.
Merry Christmas, and Happy New Year.
Love and God Bless You All,
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint Of James A. Rock @ Co., Pub.
www.mariefostino.com
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
December 15, 2002
Just got back from running 3 miles. I had no idea how stiff my legs got from living in the hospital last week. Even though I was working and kickboxing, I sat around more than usual. I woke up with aches on the right side of my body including my shoulder, arm, and leg. Now I think it must be from using the belt I put around Dad's waist to help him walk. I didn't know I used so much muscle to do this.
Now we have a monitor in Dad's room so we can hear him get up or move around. I heard him get up and ran into his room. I put on his pants and shoes for him, while he cried, because he insists that he can do this himself.
I was told that Dad is not to lean down until his hip heals. Now he's telling me that there is a cut on the side of his hip and points it our. He keeps taking off the dressing and I keep putting it back on. I make him repeat after me, "My hip has to heal. My hip had to heal."
He has no clue that he was in the hospital last week, so I haven't taken off his white bracelets yet. This way I can prove to him that he was in the hospital and that is why his hip has to heal.
Now he wants to get up and I tell him he has to use his walker. Like a stubborn child, he puts his hands on his hips, and asks why. I repeat every thing about his new hip and the doctor's orders. Then, surprisingly, he gets up, picks up the walker and walks pretty steadily down the hall. He is picking up the walker instead of rolling it and we pass the belt that I've been using to help him walk. He asks me, "What is this?"
I can't believe how well he is using the walker. Then he gets into his favorite chair and puts his hand on his head. He gets a very sad look and asks, "Where is my hair?"
Now this is bad. We can't find it. Dad is balk and wears a wig. Now Jimmy and Gina and i are searching the house for it and finally find it with his necklace and rings. his eyes sparkled as he put on his wig, necklace and rings. I had to leave and cry some joyful tears to see him so happy.
Hope you are enjoying the little of my book. I want to thank Pam for letting me come to her Support Group at Glencroft Care Center. I enjoyed sharing my story and listening to theirs. I will be in Ahwatukee on January 3rd at the Mountain View Lutheran church, and with another of Pam's Support Groups, to share my story, and listen to yours. Please drive safe, because it is very dangerous with all this rain.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint Of James A. Rock @ Co., Pub.
http://www.mariefostino.com/
Just got back from running 3 miles. I had no idea how stiff my legs got from living in the hospital last week. Even though I was working and kickboxing, I sat around more than usual. I woke up with aches on the right side of my body including my shoulder, arm, and leg. Now I think it must be from using the belt I put around Dad's waist to help him walk. I didn't know I used so much muscle to do this.
Now we have a monitor in Dad's room so we can hear him get up or move around. I heard him get up and ran into his room. I put on his pants and shoes for him, while he cried, because he insists that he can do this himself.
I was told that Dad is not to lean down until his hip heals. Now he's telling me that there is a cut on the side of his hip and points it our. He keeps taking off the dressing and I keep putting it back on. I make him repeat after me, "My hip has to heal. My hip had to heal."
He has no clue that he was in the hospital last week, so I haven't taken off his white bracelets yet. This way I can prove to him that he was in the hospital and that is why his hip has to heal.
Now he wants to get up and I tell him he has to use his walker. Like a stubborn child, he puts his hands on his hips, and asks why. I repeat every thing about his new hip and the doctor's orders. Then, surprisingly, he gets up, picks up the walker and walks pretty steadily down the hall. He is picking up the walker instead of rolling it and we pass the belt that I've been using to help him walk. He asks me, "What is this?"
I can't believe how well he is using the walker. Then he gets into his favorite chair and puts his hand on his head. He gets a very sad look and asks, "Where is my hair?"
Now this is bad. We can't find it. Dad is balk and wears a wig. Now Jimmy and Gina and i are searching the house for it and finally find it with his necklace and rings. his eyes sparkled as he put on his wig, necklace and rings. I had to leave and cry some joyful tears to see him so happy.
Hope you are enjoying the little of my book. I want to thank Pam for letting me come to her Support Group at Glencroft Care Center. I enjoyed sharing my story and listening to theirs. I will be in Ahwatukee on January 3rd at the Mountain View Lutheran church, and with another of Pam's Support Groups, to share my story, and listen to yours. Please drive safe, because it is very dangerous with all this rain.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint Of James A. Rock @ Co., Pub.
http://www.mariefostino.com/
Monday, December 15, 2008
December 14,2002
My husband, Jimmy, stayed with Dad yesterday and spent the night. I got off work at about 5 a.m. and went to the hospital. I was told that Dad was to be released by 9 a.m. and that the doctor wanted to talk to us. The doctor wants to put Dad in rehab. in a nursing home. I am fighting him about it because, although Dad can follow directions, he doesn't remember anything for more than five minutes ago. What good will a nursing home do but depress him and make him worse?
It is now 10 a.m. and the doctor is still not here and I am getting crabby. I just got off of a 13-hour, all-night shift and I want to go home and get some sleep. I went to the nurses' station and asked when the doctor is coming in but they could not tell me.
I explained that I was told he would be here at 9 o'clock. I had a lot to do, I worked all night and I was tired. They promised to page him. I gave them 15 minutes and went back to the desk. They said the doctor didn't answer the page.
Finally, I told them that I was taking Dad home now. I said I'd sign the papers saying I understood that this was against his doctors orders. The nurses got very upset and called the supervisor. I went back to the room to get Dad dressed and a few minutes later the phone rang. It was one of his doctors asking if I could wait about an hour for him to get there and release Dad. I told him I was leaving at 11:15, whether he showed up of not.
Finally, at 10:45, one of the doctors arrived and by 11:00 the other doctor showed up. Then the therapy people arrived and by the time we got all the paperwork done, it was noon before we were able to leave.
Dad was getting antsy and wanted out of there. We were not moving fast enough. When the P.T. people came in to help get him in his wheelchair, it seemed like it took him forever and all he did was argue. He wanted out and was very upset because we weren't moving fast enough.
I was told that Medicare was going to supply us with a walker and a raised commode. Someone from rehab will come by a couple of times a week and social services are supposed to come to see what we need. I am so glad that they are going to work with us.
Merry Christmas, and Happy New Year
Hope you have enjoyed reading some of my book.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint Of James A. Rock & Co., Pub.
www.mariefostino.com
My husband, Jimmy, stayed with Dad yesterday and spent the night. I got off work at about 5 a.m. and went to the hospital. I was told that Dad was to be released by 9 a.m. and that the doctor wanted to talk to us. The doctor wants to put Dad in rehab. in a nursing home. I am fighting him about it because, although Dad can follow directions, he doesn't remember anything for more than five minutes ago. What good will a nursing home do but depress him and make him worse?
It is now 10 a.m. and the doctor is still not here and I am getting crabby. I just got off of a 13-hour, all-night shift and I want to go home and get some sleep. I went to the nurses' station and asked when the doctor is coming in but they could not tell me.
I explained that I was told he would be here at 9 o'clock. I had a lot to do, I worked all night and I was tired. They promised to page him. I gave them 15 minutes and went back to the desk. They said the doctor didn't answer the page.
Finally, I told them that I was taking Dad home now. I said I'd sign the papers saying I understood that this was against his doctors orders. The nurses got very upset and called the supervisor. I went back to the room to get Dad dressed and a few minutes later the phone rang. It was one of his doctors asking if I could wait about an hour for him to get there and release Dad. I told him I was leaving at 11:15, whether he showed up of not.
Finally, at 10:45, one of the doctors arrived and by 11:00 the other doctor showed up. Then the therapy people arrived and by the time we got all the paperwork done, it was noon before we were able to leave.
Dad was getting antsy and wanted out of there. We were not moving fast enough. When the P.T. people came in to help get him in his wheelchair, it seemed like it took him forever and all he did was argue. He wanted out and was very upset because we weren't moving fast enough.
I was told that Medicare was going to supply us with a walker and a raised commode. Someone from rehab will come by a couple of times a week and social services are supposed to come to see what we need. I am so glad that they are going to work with us.
Merry Christmas, and Happy New Year
Hope you have enjoyed reading some of my book.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint Of James A. Rock & Co., Pub.
www.mariefostino.com
Thursday, December 11, 2008
December 10, 2002
Dad had surgery today, We took him to the hospital at 10 a.m. this Tuesday morning and by 1:15 he'd left for surgery. At 5:15 the doctor came out and said everything went well and we could see him in his room in about an hour. Can't wait.
We figure that his recovery will be hit and miss. Tonight he should be tired because of the narcotics. Tomorrow, when they start weaning him off, he'll be awake and the fight will begin. They want to keep him here for three or four days. They also want him to go to a nursing home for rehab. I don't think so---he can't even handle being in his own home for a day. how can he possibly handle a nursing home?
That is why we moved here---so that we could take care of him and he wouldn't be in a nursing home.
When Dad got our of recovery he was amazing. he began talking almost immediately. He's confused as always, telling the nurses that I'm his wife and my name is Joann. He also must have asked one million times, "Where was he?"
He wanted to get up and walk. We got him to eat what they called dinner, consisting of clear broth, tea, gelatin, and ice cream. I told the nurses I would stay to take care of Dad, but they told me to go home; that he was in good hands. I gave the nurses my phone number, just in case. I said I could be there in ten minutes.
Well, sure enough, I was not home two hours when the phone rang. Dad had ripped out his catheter, torn off his dressing s and tried to pull out the drain port. And, of course, he tried getting out of bed. So there I was, with my trusty blanket, as I knew I'd have a long night ahead of me.
He did not sleep. He talked and chanted prayers and begged me to take the restraints off. He yelled and swore at me. He told me he was going to bite me or knock me down. The best one was he said he'd tell the teamsters what was going on, because "It was not right."
Sometimes he was mean and ugly and sometimes he was sweet. I'd say, "Hush, Dad. You are waking up the house."
He would say he was sorry and be quiet for 15 minutes. Then it would start again.
Well, all in all, it was a good day. Dad is alive and feisty and I still have the privilege of taking care of him
Hope you enjoyed this little bit from my journal. Happy Holidays.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint Of James A. Rock & Co., Pub.
www.mariefostino.com
Dad had surgery today, We took him to the hospital at 10 a.m. this Tuesday morning and by 1:15 he'd left for surgery. At 5:15 the doctor came out and said everything went well and we could see him in his room in about an hour. Can't wait.
We figure that his recovery will be hit and miss. Tonight he should be tired because of the narcotics. Tomorrow, when they start weaning him off, he'll be awake and the fight will begin. They want to keep him here for three or four days. They also want him to go to a nursing home for rehab. I don't think so---he can't even handle being in his own home for a day. how can he possibly handle a nursing home?
That is why we moved here---so that we could take care of him and he wouldn't be in a nursing home.
When Dad got our of recovery he was amazing. he began talking almost immediately. He's confused as always, telling the nurses that I'm his wife and my name is Joann. He also must have asked one million times, "Where was he?"
He wanted to get up and walk. We got him to eat what they called dinner, consisting of clear broth, tea, gelatin, and ice cream. I told the nurses I would stay to take care of Dad, but they told me to go home; that he was in good hands. I gave the nurses my phone number, just in case. I said I could be there in ten minutes.
Well, sure enough, I was not home two hours when the phone rang. Dad had ripped out his catheter, torn off his dressing s and tried to pull out the drain port. And, of course, he tried getting out of bed. So there I was, with my trusty blanket, as I knew I'd have a long night ahead of me.
He did not sleep. He talked and chanted prayers and begged me to take the restraints off. He yelled and swore at me. He told me he was going to bite me or knock me down. The best one was he said he'd tell the teamsters what was going on, because "It was not right."
Sometimes he was mean and ugly and sometimes he was sweet. I'd say, "Hush, Dad. You are waking up the house."
He would say he was sorry and be quiet for 15 minutes. Then it would start again.
Well, all in all, it was a good day. Dad is alive and feisty and I still have the privilege of taking care of him
Hope you enjoyed this little bit from my journal. Happy Holidays.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint Of James A. Rock & Co., Pub.
www.mariefostino.com
Tuesday, December 9, 2008
Hope you have been looking on line at the Alzheimer's Web Sites. On the home page of Alzheimer's Weekly it says " You don't get to choose how you are going to die. Or When. You only can decide how you are going to live.NOW." From the CaregiversVoice.com Check out her advice column. This month it is on "Making your home a safe haven: Simple changes that protect independence." Alzheimer's Society, The latest News, "Alzheimer's Society Comment on ONS figure that almost a quarter of the UK's population will be over 65 by 2032." Just to name a few. Also I hope you are trying to find a support group. It is important to talk to other people going through what you are going through. And don't feel guilty about respite care. If you don't take care of yourself, how can you take care of your loved one.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint Of James A. Rock & Co., Pu.
www.mariefostino.com
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint Of James A. Rock & Co., Pu.
www.mariefostino.com
Monday, December 8, 2008
December 9, 2002
This Monday morning began with Dad yelling at 3:00 a.m. frm his bedroom that he's, "O.K. and cleaning it up." I jumped out of bed to see what was wrong. It was obvious that he'd had an "accident." He propped a chair on his bedroom door to keep us out. Even ourside the door, I smelled the wonderful aroma of his bowel movement. I asked him if I could help.
He was adamant, however, and said he'd clean it up himself. It was 3 a.m. and I was too tired to fight, so I went back to bed. Then, at 5 a.m., Dad leaves the bedroom and starts down the hall. I make him go back to bed and tuck him in but at 6 a.m. my daughter up and vomiting in the bathroom.
Finally, at 8:00, Dad is up. He is upset with me because I am going to make him take a bath. "You know," he said, "I took one yesterday and I fought two wars and I am a grown up!" Finally, I got him in the bathroom with clean clothes. I am waiting, but I don't hear him splashing in the bath water I drew for him. I look inside and he is standing by the bathroom sink with his head and neck full of soap. Of course, I told him he must get into the bathtub and he says that he is leaving because I am bothering him. I did manage to get his nasty clothes and sheets and put them in the washing machine.
I am not venting, just telling how the week is starting.
But with a smile on my face, I love taking care of this man. I wish he wouldn't get so upset with me, but I know he doesn't mean it.
Hope you enjoyed this entry. It does bring back memories, of a man I love and will always cherish in my heart. I hate what this diesase did to him. But the memories of him the many years before is what gave me the strenght and love to care for him. Thank you God for giving me the chance to try and give him some of what he gave me all those years. I know that it is holiday time, and it is hard to keep Christmas alive while your loved one has Alzheimer's. Keep praying. Look for Respite care for a needed break. Also try to find a support group.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretaker's Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint Of James A. Rock & Co., Pub
www.mariefostino.com
This Monday morning began with Dad yelling at 3:00 a.m. frm his bedroom that he's, "O.K. and cleaning it up." I jumped out of bed to see what was wrong. It was obvious that he'd had an "accident." He propped a chair on his bedroom door to keep us out. Even ourside the door, I smelled the wonderful aroma of his bowel movement. I asked him if I could help.
He was adamant, however, and said he'd clean it up himself. It was 3 a.m. and I was too tired to fight, so I went back to bed. Then, at 5 a.m., Dad leaves the bedroom and starts down the hall. I make him go back to bed and tuck him in but at 6 a.m. my daughter up and vomiting in the bathroom.
Finally, at 8:00, Dad is up. He is upset with me because I am going to make him take a bath. "You know," he said, "I took one yesterday and I fought two wars and I am a grown up!" Finally, I got him in the bathroom with clean clothes. I am waiting, but I don't hear him splashing in the bath water I drew for him. I look inside and he is standing by the bathroom sink with his head and neck full of soap. Of course, I told him he must get into the bathtub and he says that he is leaving because I am bothering him. I did manage to get his nasty clothes and sheets and put them in the washing machine.
I am not venting, just telling how the week is starting.
But with a smile on my face, I love taking care of this man. I wish he wouldn't get so upset with me, but I know he doesn't mean it.
Hope you enjoyed this entry. It does bring back memories, of a man I love and will always cherish in my heart. I hate what this diesase did to him. But the memories of him the many years before is what gave me the strenght and love to care for him. Thank you God for giving me the chance to try and give him some of what he gave me all those years. I know that it is holiday time, and it is hard to keep Christmas alive while your loved one has Alzheimer's. Keep praying. Look for Respite care for a needed break. Also try to find a support group.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretaker's Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint Of James A. Rock & Co., Pub
www.mariefostino.com
Thursday, December 4, 2008
December 5, 2002
Today is Thursday and I am seeing another side of the disease now. Dad gets angry, now. He puts his fists up and tires to kick me. He's tried to get out of the car while I'm driving, and hits the dashboard, hard, with his fists. He grabs anything he can get his hands on (like my cell phone) and throws it while I am driving. His language is very bad.
I think the pain from his hip is causing some of this behavior. I was giving him Celebrex for the pain, but the doctors want it out of his system before his hip operation. I am just to give him Tylenol now.
I am trying to learn to make him more comfortable and remember that we are here to take care of each other. I remember the saying, "Be an angel, practice random acts of kindness
This is just going back in time when dad was still here. I do miss him so. I hope you enjoy the little inserts from my journal.
Hope you are having a good December. Remember that Christmas is to celebrate Jesus birth. Also don't forget to get some respite time to be with the rest of your family, and enjoy the holiday. Find a good support group to go to. And don't forget the sites on the Internet.
Alzheimer's Weekly, Alzheimer's Society, OurAlzheimer's.com, TheCareGiversVoice.com, The Alzheimer's Association, Alzheimer's Foundation of America, and Alzheimer's Disease Education and Referal Center to name a few.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint Of James A Rock & Co., Pub.
www.mariefostino.com
Wednesday, December 3, 2008
DECEMBER 3, 2002
Today is the first time Dad showed physical violence. We got a call from the Daycare Center today because Dad was getting violent. They said he was arguing with everyone. Then, when he tried to stand up, an aide went to help him and Dad yelled, "Look! She's touching me! I need an attorney."
When I got there I asked him who I was but he could not tell me. I tried to put his coat on, but this made him angry and violent. He would not let me put his coat on and tried to get out of his chair, yelling, "No, you are not taking me back to Germany. You are all Nazi's. You are trying to kill me."
It took three of us to get him outside to the car (without his coat). At the car, Dad had his fists to me and a growl on his face. He threatened to kick me and started swearing. I hit his mouth and told him I was going to put soap in his mouth to clean it up. I asked, "Did he kiss his mother with that mouth?"
I told him how difficult he was being and finally we got him into the car. I lectured him, like a child, about his behavior. He fell asleep while driving home. I didn't talk to him much at home. I gave him his dinner and left. I tinted my hair and played on the computer-----just kept my distance for a while.
I am sharing a little of my journal with you from a Christmas Past. It is Christmas. You feel like you have chains on, and can't enjoy the holiday. Don't forget that you can get respite care so that you can do some shopping or just enjoy a night out during this holiday time. Always look for a support group. Merry Christmas.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint Of James A Rock & Co., Pub.
www.mariefostino.com
Today is the first time Dad showed physical violence. We got a call from the Daycare Center today because Dad was getting violent. They said he was arguing with everyone. Then, when he tried to stand up, an aide went to help him and Dad yelled, "Look! She's touching me! I need an attorney."
When I got there I asked him who I was but he could not tell me. I tried to put his coat on, but this made him angry and violent. He would not let me put his coat on and tried to get out of his chair, yelling, "No, you are not taking me back to Germany. You are all Nazi's. You are trying to kill me."
It took three of us to get him outside to the car (without his coat). At the car, Dad had his fists to me and a growl on his face. He threatened to kick me and started swearing. I hit his mouth and told him I was going to put soap in his mouth to clean it up. I asked, "Did he kiss his mother with that mouth?"
I told him how difficult he was being and finally we got him into the car. I lectured him, like a child, about his behavior. He fell asleep while driving home. I didn't talk to him much at home. I gave him his dinner and left. I tinted my hair and played on the computer-----just kept my distance for a while.
I am sharing a little of my journal with you from a Christmas Past. It is Christmas. You feel like you have chains on, and can't enjoy the holiday. Don't forget that you can get respite care so that you can do some shopping or just enjoy a night out during this holiday time. Always look for a support group. Merry Christmas.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint Of James A Rock & Co., Pub.
www.mariefostino.com
Tuesday, December 2, 2008
A BEAUTIFUL PRAYER
I asked God to take away my habit
God said, No.
It is not for me to take away, but for you to give up.
I asked God to make my handicapped child whole,
God said, No.
His spirit is whole, his body is only temporary.
I asked God to grant me patience.
God said, No.
Patience is a by-product of tribulations; it isn't granted, it is learned.
I asked God to spare me pain.
God said, No.
Suffering draws you apart from worldly cares and brings you closer to me.
I asked God to make my spirit grow
God said, No.
You must grow on your own! But I will prune you to make you fruitful.
I asked God for all things that i might enjoy life,
God said, No.
I will give you life, so that you may enjoy all things.
I asked God to help me LOVE others, as much as he loves me.
God said. . . . AHHH, finally you have the idea.
Take care, and God Bless You! Merry Christmas!
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard, An Imprint of James A. Rock & Co., Pub.
www.mariefostino.com
I asked God to take away my habit
God said, No.
It is not for me to take away, but for you to give up.
I asked God to make my handicapped child whole,
God said, No.
His spirit is whole, his body is only temporary.
I asked God to grant me patience.
God said, No.
Patience is a by-product of tribulations; it isn't granted, it is learned.
I asked God to spare me pain.
God said, No.
Suffering draws you apart from worldly cares and brings you closer to me.
I asked God to make my spirit grow
God said, No.
You must grow on your own! But I will prune you to make you fruitful.
I asked God for all things that i might enjoy life,
God said, No.
I will give you life, so that you may enjoy all things.
I asked God to help me LOVE others, as much as he loves me.
God said. . . . AHHH, finally you have the idea.
Take care, and God Bless You! Merry Christmas!
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard, An Imprint of James A. Rock & Co., Pub.
www.mariefostino.com
Sunday, November 30, 2008
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal:
December 1, 2002
Live is full of learning lessons. We must be open to learn and live. We are given tribulations, blessings, suffering, and we must figure out the difference and learn happiness, patience, and love in order to grow and be a better person.
I sort of knew this most of my life, but now it seems I am being tested much more severely than in the past.
I raised five children and have been in a marriage for almost 29 years. I have had to fight to be strong, been so poor that we had to live on pennies to buy milk, been moved away from family and friends great distances. I have known loneliness. I returned to school late in life, and discovered that I was dyslexic. But no trail has tested me or taught such lessons as I am learning now.
I can use your prayers when I find myself being short-tempered when I know I should not be; when I become aggravated with my situation ans should not be. I am discovering my shortcomings and learning to deal with them. I will be a better person for this trial.
I need to thank Julie for the poem,"A Beautiful Prayer." It is so true. I cannot just pray for patience, or happiness, or sparing of pain, or to make my spirit grow. I have to do this myself from what God has given me while I'm on earth. But I can ask God to help me LOVE others as much as he does.
Thank you for reading. I will try to put in a little of my journal this month as I relive one of my Christmas pasts, while taking care of my father in law with his Alzheimer's. Remember to look on line at the different Alzheimer Sites. Also find your self an Alzheimer Support Group. Some additional Web-links are:
Alzheimer's Weekly, Alzheimer's Society, OurAlzheimer's.com, TheCaregiversVoice.com, The Alzheimer's Association, Alzheimer's Foundation of America, and Alzheimer's Disease, Education, and Referal Center, Just to name a few.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press, An Imprint Of James A. Rock & Co., Pub.
www.mariefostino.com
December 1, 2002
Live is full of learning lessons. We must be open to learn and live. We are given tribulations, blessings, suffering, and we must figure out the difference and learn happiness, patience, and love in order to grow and be a better person.
I sort of knew this most of my life, but now it seems I am being tested much more severely than in the past.
I raised five children and have been in a marriage for almost 29 years. I have had to fight to be strong, been so poor that we had to live on pennies to buy milk, been moved away from family and friends great distances. I have known loneliness. I returned to school late in life, and discovered that I was dyslexic. But no trail has tested me or taught such lessons as I am learning now.
I can use your prayers when I find myself being short-tempered when I know I should not be; when I become aggravated with my situation ans should not be. I am discovering my shortcomings and learning to deal with them. I will be a better person for this trial.
I need to thank Julie for the poem,"A Beautiful Prayer." It is so true. I cannot just pray for patience, or happiness, or sparing of pain, or to make my spirit grow. I have to do this myself from what God has given me while I'm on earth. But I can ask God to help me LOVE others as much as he does.
Thank you for reading. I will try to put in a little of my journal this month as I relive one of my Christmas pasts, while taking care of my father in law with his Alzheimer's. Remember to look on line at the different Alzheimer Sites. Also find your self an Alzheimer Support Group. Some additional Web-links are:
Alzheimer's Weekly, Alzheimer's Society, OurAlzheimer's.com, TheCaregiversVoice.com, The Alzheimer's Association, Alzheimer's Foundation of America, and Alzheimer's Disease, Education, and Referal Center, Just to name a few.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press, An Imprint Of James A. Rock & Co., Pub.
www.mariefostino.com
Tuesday, November 25, 2008
QUOTE FROM ALZHEIMER'S WEEKLY: There is much in the world to make us afraid. There is much more in our faith to make us unafraid. By Fredrick W. Cropp.
This is a wonderful holiday week. Happy Thanksgiving to all. It is a time to reflect on what we are so thankful for. It can also be a hard time for some as they think of their loved one with this terrible disease called Alzheimer's and how they can't really enjoy this day with them. But don't forget who they were, and the fun times you had before this disease took over their mind.
Please find your self a support group so that you can reflect and ask questions, and hopefully find solutions. God Bless You All.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press, An Imprint of James A. Rock & Co., Pub.
www.mariefostino.com
This is a wonderful holiday week. Happy Thanksgiving to all. It is a time to reflect on what we are so thankful for. It can also be a hard time for some as they think of their loved one with this terrible disease called Alzheimer's and how they can't really enjoy this day with them. But don't forget who they were, and the fun times you had before this disease took over their mind.
Please find your self a support group so that you can reflect and ask questions, and hopefully find solutions. God Bless You All.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press, An Imprint of James A. Rock & Co., Pub.
www.mariefostino.com
Friday, November 21, 2008
We all start out as infants in this world, depending on someone to nurture, love, and take care of us. We go through the discovery of everything being new, fresh, and exciting. Then the adolescent years come upon us and, as we become young adults, we learn different kinds of lessons about life from the people around us. Next, some of us go onto school while others find love, marry, and have children. Then there are those who find a career. Time goes on and we get older, as do our mothers, fathers, brothers, and sisters.
One day you look in the mirror and your are twenty-years old. The next time you notice, you're thirty, forty, and the years march by. You can't figure out where the time has gone. We've all been busy with our lives doing such different things; how-ever, there's one thing we all have in common. Our parents are getting older. One day we may find ourselves expected to take care of them.
We know that, as we get older, we may lose our memory, sight, and hearing. But nothing can prepare us for what happens when our loved one's dementia turns into Alzheimer's. The caretaker inevitably feels lost and alone. Our loved ones are not themselves anymore--at least not the way we remember them. They don't know who we are and they don't know where they are.
Some of us listen to what the doctor says and put them in a the hands of professionals in a care center for the elderly. But some of us take on the challenge of caring directly for out parents, just as they once took care of us. We're not sue what in on the road ahead, but we know that we love our parents and want only the best for them.
This is such a tale--a story of a tough love. I have worked in nursing homes, and in the Emergency Medical System (EMS) taking the elderly back and forth between hospitals. and nursing homes. When it was discovered that my father-in-law was not himself and his mental health was deteriorating, my sister-in-law found she could not longer care for him.
My husband and I discussed the situation and decided that we owed it to this great man, who taught us so much throughout our lives, to care for him in his time of need.
It was hard to deal with the man he had become. We had to remember that he is now a victim of the disease--that this person was no longer really him anymore. It was a greater challenge than we could have imagined, caring for him to his dying day; but it was also rewarding.
I wanted to write and share this journal in the hope that it might help others who are taking care of, or considering caring for, their aging parents. I wanted them to know that they are not alone. Don't feel that you've failed when you're aggravated, depressed, or angry. These emotions only show that you are human. Caretakers should value those days when they are blessed with the wonderful things their loved one do. Caretakers must always remember the person they knew before the disease began to take its toll.
If you are just starting out, maybe this book will give you a better idea of what to expect.
I have found that running and enjoying a daily walk with God helped me get through terrible days and made them turn around. I hope you enjoy this book and that, in some way, it helps you face and better analyze the difficult decisions ahead.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press, An Imprint of James J. Rock & Co., Pub.
www.mariefostino.com
One day you look in the mirror and your are twenty-years old. The next time you notice, you're thirty, forty, and the years march by. You can't figure out where the time has gone. We've all been busy with our lives doing such different things; how-ever, there's one thing we all have in common. Our parents are getting older. One day we may find ourselves expected to take care of them.
We know that, as we get older, we may lose our memory, sight, and hearing. But nothing can prepare us for what happens when our loved one's dementia turns into Alzheimer's. The caretaker inevitably feels lost and alone. Our loved ones are not themselves anymore--at least not the way we remember them. They don't know who we are and they don't know where they are.
Some of us listen to what the doctor says and put them in a the hands of professionals in a care center for the elderly. But some of us take on the challenge of caring directly for out parents, just as they once took care of us. We're not sue what in on the road ahead, but we know that we love our parents and want only the best for them.
This is such a tale--a story of a tough love. I have worked in nursing homes, and in the Emergency Medical System (EMS) taking the elderly back and forth between hospitals. and nursing homes. When it was discovered that my father-in-law was not himself and his mental health was deteriorating, my sister-in-law found she could not longer care for him.
My husband and I discussed the situation and decided that we owed it to this great man, who taught us so much throughout our lives, to care for him in his time of need.
It was hard to deal with the man he had become. We had to remember that he is now a victim of the disease--that this person was no longer really him anymore. It was a greater challenge than we could have imagined, caring for him to his dying day; but it was also rewarding.
I wanted to write and share this journal in the hope that it might help others who are taking care of, or considering caring for, their aging parents. I wanted them to know that they are not alone. Don't feel that you've failed when you're aggravated, depressed, or angry. These emotions only show that you are human. Caretakers should value those days when they are blessed with the wonderful things their loved one do. Caretakers must always remember the person they knew before the disease began to take its toll.
If you are just starting out, maybe this book will give you a better idea of what to expect.
I have found that running and enjoying a daily walk with God helped me get through terrible days and made them turn around. I hope you enjoy this book and that, in some way, it helps you face and better analyze the difficult decisions ahead.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press, An Imprint of James J. Rock & Co., Pub.
www.mariefostino.com
Thursday, November 20, 2008
Hello
Hope you have taken advantage of the web sites available for you to help you with this terrible disease. Have you checked out the web site Alzheimer's Foundation of America? They have some Caregiving Tips: Strategies for Success:
1) Educate your self about the disease. Read books, attend workshops and consult with health care professionals.
2) Learn caregiving techniques. Key areas are communication shills, safety concerns, and managing behavioral challenges and activities of daily living.
3) Understand the experience of your loved one. Adjust your expectations. Be patient and kind.
4) Avoid caregiver burnout. Make time for yourself. Join caregiver support groups. pursue interests beyond your caregiving role, such as exercise, hobbies, journaling and art.
5) Maintain your own physical and mental health. Exercise, respite and other activities can reduce stress. Seek medical help if there are signs of depression.
6) Discuss the situation with family and friends. Support systems are critical.
7) Do cognitive stimulation activities with your loved one. Listening to music, word puzzles and memory games can easily be done at home.
8) Foster communication with physicians. Be involved in your loved one's medical care. Ask questions about the progression of the disease, express concerns and discuss treatment options.
9) Take care of financial, legal and long-term care planning issues. Try to involve your loved one decision-making, if they are still capable of providing input, and consider their wishes related to future care and end-of-life issues.
10) Smile. kindness, humor and creativity are essential part of caregiving. Hugs, hand massage and other gentle physical contact will help your loved one feel connected and loved.
11) Think positive. Focus on your loved one's remaining strengths and enjoy your relationship while they are still able to.
12) Reach out for care. Call the Alzheimer's Foundatoin of America--866.AFA.8484, for counseling information and referrals to local resources nationwide.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press Imprint of James J. Rock & Co., Pub.
www.mariefostino.com
Hope you have taken advantage of the web sites available for you to help you with this terrible disease. Have you checked out the web site Alzheimer's Foundation of America? They have some Caregiving Tips: Strategies for Success:
1) Educate your self about the disease. Read books, attend workshops and consult with health care professionals.
2) Learn caregiving techniques. Key areas are communication shills, safety concerns, and managing behavioral challenges and activities of daily living.
3) Understand the experience of your loved one. Adjust your expectations. Be patient and kind.
4) Avoid caregiver burnout. Make time for yourself. Join caregiver support groups. pursue interests beyond your caregiving role, such as exercise, hobbies, journaling and art.
5) Maintain your own physical and mental health. Exercise, respite and other activities can reduce stress. Seek medical help if there are signs of depression.
6) Discuss the situation with family and friends. Support systems are critical.
7) Do cognitive stimulation activities with your loved one. Listening to music, word puzzles and memory games can easily be done at home.
8) Foster communication with physicians. Be involved in your loved one's medical care. Ask questions about the progression of the disease, express concerns and discuss treatment options.
9) Take care of financial, legal and long-term care planning issues. Try to involve your loved one decision-making, if they are still capable of providing input, and consider their wishes related to future care and end-of-life issues.
10) Smile. kindness, humor and creativity are essential part of caregiving. Hugs, hand massage and other gentle physical contact will help your loved one feel connected and loved.
11) Think positive. Focus on your loved one's remaining strengths and enjoy your relationship while they are still able to.
12) Reach out for care. Call the Alzheimer's Foundatoin of America--866.AFA.8484, for counseling information and referrals to local resources nationwide.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press Imprint of James J. Rock & Co., Pub.
www.mariefostino.com
Wednesday, November 19, 2008
Have you read the CaregiversVoice.com lately? They are talking about respite care for the holiday season. If you are a caregiver traveling without a loved one this holiday season, how about considering respite care. The National Family Caregivers Association offers the following: Respite Care takes on many forms, including adult day care, surrogate caregiver coverage by other family members or friends, home health care through a professional service, or a short-term stay in a senior housing community.
One way to celebrate NFC month is to give yourself a break. Search for respite care in select senior housing communities nationwide, visit SNAP for Seniors. If you would like more assistance in locating senior housing options for respite care, call 206/575-0728 extension 2013 or email snap for seniors. Look up CaregiversVoice.com for more info.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint of James J. Rock & Co., Pubs
www.mariefostino.com
One way to celebrate NFC month is to give yourself a break. Search for respite care in select senior housing communities nationwide, visit SNAP for Seniors. If you would like more assistance in locating senior housing options for respite care, call 206/575-0728 extension 2013 or email snap for seniors. Look up CaregiversVoice.com for more info.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint of James J. Rock & Co., Pubs
www.mariefostino.com
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
Hope you are checking the Alzheimer's Sites on line. They are very helpful. According to OurAlzheimer's.Com, today is National Memory Screening Day! On November 18, The Alzheimer's Foundation of America and it's partners are sponsoring free memory screenings for National Memory screening Day. This event, which occurs every November, is held to help promote the early detection of Alzheimer's disease and other memory-related illnesses. It also helps to encourage appropriate interventions for people suffering from memory problems. Participating sites will provide free confidential memory screenings, as well as follow-up resources and educational materials about memory and aging. Do you have a loved one that needs to be checked. Link on to OurAlzheimer's.Com for more information. Have a great day!!!
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint of James J. Rock & Co., Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint of James J. Rock & Co., Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
Sunday, November 16, 2008
Have you looked at Alzheimer's Weekly this week? Thought of the week! Young love is about being happy. Old love is about wanting someone else to be happy. Hope you are taking advantage of all the Alzheimer's Sites out there.
Any one who lives in Phoenix, Az. The Borders On Mills Ave has a few of my books still on there shelves. If you don't see them, just ask. Also Changing Hands has a few of my books on there shelves. Of course you can get my books on line at places like James. J. Rock Publishers - Amazone.com.-Boarders.com.-Barnes&Nobles.com. Even at Target.com.
Other news, this week is the big new movie Twlight.
Just went to see Fireproof yesterday. This is a must see movie. It is about a young fireman who is good about saving people, but now has to learn how to save his marriage. And God is the center
Thank you for reading this and God Bless You all.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint of James J. Rock & Co., Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
Any one who lives in Phoenix, Az. The Borders On Mills Ave has a few of my books still on there shelves. If you don't see them, just ask. Also Changing Hands has a few of my books on there shelves. Of course you can get my books on line at places like James. J. Rock Publishers - Amazone.com.-Boarders.com.-Barnes&Nobles.com. Even at Target.com.
Other news, this week is the big new movie Twlight.
Just went to see Fireproof yesterday. This is a must see movie. It is about a young fireman who is good about saving people, but now has to learn how to save his marriage. And God is the center
Thank you for reading this and God Bless You all.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint of James J. Rock & Co., Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
Thursday, November 13, 2008
Good Morning, It is a beautiful day here in sunny Phoenix, Arizona. I was going through the different Alzheimer's sites on line, and I hope you are taking advantage of this, and here is the thought from Alzheimer's Weekly. THE SMALLEST ACT OF KINDNESS IS WORTH MORE THAN THE GRANDEST INTENTION. I hope that you are doing well, and are getting the respite you need to keep taking care of your loved one with the terrible Alzheimer's Disease. There is nothing wrong with saying that you need help and can not do it alone. Also remember that sleep, exercise and food are real important to help you keep up your strenght. And most important of all, don't forget to pray for guidance. Don't for get to smile and have a good day.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint of James J. Rock & Co., Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint of James J. Rock & Co., Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
Tuesday, November 11, 2008
Enroll in educational programs. That is what it says in OurAlzheimers.com. To Care for someone with Alzheimer's can be challenging. Talk openly with our loved ones doctor. Learn more ways you can care for your loved one. Take advantage of these on line sites. Alzheimer's Weekly. Alzheimer's Society. OurAlzheimer's.com. TheCaregiversVoice.com. Alzheimer's Association. Alzheimer's Foundation of America. Alzheimer's Disease Education and Referal Center. These are some ways to help educate yourself about the disease and how to cope. There are on line chat rooms if you are to embarrassed to go to a group discussion in person, Or if you don't have respite care to get away and you need to talk. Don't forget to pray. God is listening. Hope you have a great week.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint Of James J. Rock & Co., Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint Of James J. Rock & Co., Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
Sunday, November 9, 2008
Hello,
Alzheimer's is a terrible disease that millions of people live with every day. But with this disease it also affects their loved ones besides themselves. It destroys the mind, and leaves not only the person with the disease feeling helpless but also the family member taking care of the person. It hurts deeply when a loved one forgets your name and who you are. It hurts deeply when the loved one with the disease gets angry at you, when you are only trying to help them. Don't forget that there are nursing home out there to help you out. Also there are Alzheimer support groups which are a big help. Don't forget to get on line and look up material to help you out. Places like Alzheimer's Weekly, Alzheimer's Society, OurAlzheimer's.com, TheCaregiversVoice.com, The Alzheimer's Association, Alzheimer's Foundation of America, and Alzheimer's Disease Education and Referal Center to name a few. I hope that my book has helped you with the realization of what it is like and opens up a door to reality to see if you are going to keep your loved one at home or put into a nursing home. Let me know what you decide, and if I have helped you at all.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint of James J. Rock & Co., Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
Alzheimer's is a terrible disease that millions of people live with every day. But with this disease it also affects their loved ones besides themselves. It destroys the mind, and leaves not only the person with the disease feeling helpless but also the family member taking care of the person. It hurts deeply when a loved one forgets your name and who you are. It hurts deeply when the loved one with the disease gets angry at you, when you are only trying to help them. Don't forget that there are nursing home out there to help you out. Also there are Alzheimer support groups which are a big help. Don't forget to get on line and look up material to help you out. Places like Alzheimer's Weekly, Alzheimer's Society, OurAlzheimer's.com, TheCaregiversVoice.com, The Alzheimer's Association, Alzheimer's Foundation of America, and Alzheimer's Disease Education and Referal Center to name a few. I hope that my book has helped you with the realization of what it is like and opens up a door to reality to see if you are going to keep your loved one at home or put into a nursing home. Let me know what you decide, and if I have helped you at all.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint of James J. Rock & Co., Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
Hope you have been reading these different Alzheimer's sites. The thought of the week from Alzheimer's Weekly: Kindness is more than good deeds. It's an attitude, an expression, a look, and a touch. It is anything that lifts another person. C. Neil Strait. Have a great week. Remember to be an angel and practice random acts of kindness.
God Bless You,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint Of James J. Rock & Co., Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
God Bless You,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint Of James J. Rock & Co., Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
Sunday, November 2, 2008
Do you ever wonder if you are really helping anyone? Do you wonder if you have a purpose in this life? I believe that we have many different hats to wear and when we finish one project that God gives us, if we are open we will have another. When I took care of dad, that took all my time, and that was what God had planned for me to do. And when I published the Journal, I believed that God wanted that done so that, with dad's help, even thought he is gone, we could still help people. But sometimes I wonder if I am helping anyone. I guess the hardest part is trying to get this journal out there for others to see all over the United States. There are so many people out there, taking care of a loved one with Alzheimer's. Some are spouses, some are daughter, or sons. Some have decided to take on the challenge at home, and some decided that it was to much for them and they asked for help from a care facility. I hope that no matter which case you fit into, that you have found something to read to help you form your decision. I am hoping that this Journal is helping someone out there. If anyone has read my book, 'Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal' and it has helped you one way or another please let me know. I am sure that other readers would like your input also.
Thank you and have a great week.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakes Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint of James J. Rock& Co.,Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
Thank you and have a great week.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakes Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint of James J. Rock& Co.,Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
Saturday, November 1, 2008
Good Morning,
Such wonderful weather here in Phoenix, Az. Hope to see you at The South Mountain / Laveen Village's Festival Inc. & Wal Mart 37th Annual Community Craft, Health, Safety and Information Fair. I think the parade is from 10:00 to 12:00 noon. The booths are up till 3:00. Also the Alzheimer's Memory Walk is going on down town Phoenix. Hope you have a wonderful weekend. Also I would love to come and share my experience taking care of my father in law. I think it is important to hear from other people, the struggles, the solutions, the loneliness, and that you are not alone.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint Of James A. Rock & Co., Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
Such wonderful weather here in Phoenix, Az. Hope to see you at The South Mountain / Laveen Village's Festival Inc. & Wal Mart 37th Annual Community Craft, Health, Safety and Information Fair. I think the parade is from 10:00 to 12:00 noon. The booths are up till 3:00. Also the Alzheimer's Memory Walk is going on down town Phoenix. Hope you have a wonderful weekend. Also I would love to come and share my experience taking care of my father in law. I think it is important to hear from other people, the struggles, the solutions, the loneliness, and that you are not alone.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint Of James A. Rock & Co., Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
Sunday, October 26, 2008
Good Afternoon on this beautiful Sunday from Phoenix, Ax.,
Just a couple of reminders in the Phoenix, area. The Morbid Manor Charity Haunted House - Oct. 29 to 31 from 6:30 to 9:30 pm at 5755 N 51st Ave in Glendale. Also from Alzheimer's Association the Memory Walk on Nov. 1st at the Wesley Bolin Plaza at 7:30 am.
I will be at The South Mountain/Laveen Village's Festival Inc. & Wal Mart 37th Annual Community Craft, Health, Safety and Information Fair. It is Saturday, November 1 from 10:00 am to 3:00 pm. The Parade staging will be at 305 E. Baseline Road at 8am.
If you check out Alzheimer's Weekly: the thought of the week states:
God did not create us to see through each other, but to see each other through.
Hope you have a great week.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint of J. A. Rock & Co., Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
Just a couple of reminders in the Phoenix, area. The Morbid Manor Charity Haunted House - Oct. 29 to 31 from 6:30 to 9:30 pm at 5755 N 51st Ave in Glendale. Also from Alzheimer's Association the Memory Walk on Nov. 1st at the Wesley Bolin Plaza at 7:30 am.
I will be at The South Mountain/Laveen Village's Festival Inc. & Wal Mart 37th Annual Community Craft, Health, Safety and Information Fair. It is Saturday, November 1 from 10:00 am to 3:00 pm. The Parade staging will be at 305 E. Baseline Road at 8am.
If you check out Alzheimer's Weekly: the thought of the week states:
God did not create us to see through each other, but to see each other through.
Hope you have a great week.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An Imprint of J. A. Rock & Co., Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
Tuesday, October 21, 2008
Here is a little bit from my book: December 15, 2002
Just got back from running 3 miles. I had no idea how stiff my legs got from living in the hospital last week. Even thought I was working and kickboxing, I sat around more than usual. I woke up with aches on the right side of my body including my shoulder, arm, and leg. now I think it must be from using the belt I put around Dad's waist to help him walk. I didn't know I used so much muscle to do this.
Now we have a monitor in Dad's room so we can hear him get up or move around. I heard him get up and ran into his room. I put on his pants and shoes for him, while he cried, because he insists that he can do this himself.
I was told that Dad is not to lean down until his hip heals. Now he's telling me that there is a cut on the side of his hip and points it out. He keeps taking off the dressing and I keep putting it back on. I make him repeat after me, "My hip has to heal. My hip has to heal."
He has no clue that he was in the hospital last week, so I haven't taken off his white bracelets yet. This way I can prove to him that he was in the hospital and that is why his hip has to heal.
Now he wants to get up and I tell him he has to use his walker. Like a stubborn child, he puts his hands on his hips, and asks why. I repeat everything about his new hip and the doctor's orders. Then, surprisingly, he gets up, picks up the walker and walks pretty steadily down the hall. He is picking up the walker instead of rolling it and we pass the belt that I've been using to help him walk. He asks me, "What is this?"
I can't believe how well he is using the walker. Then he gets into his favorite chair and puts his hand on his head. He gets a very sad look and asks, "Where is my hair?"
Now this is bad. We can't find it. Dad is bald and wears a wig. Now Jimmy and Gina and I are searching the house for it and finally find it with his necklace and his rings. His eyes sparkled as he put on his wig, necklace and rings. I had to leave and cry some joyful tears to see him so happy.
Hope you enjoyed this entry.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press an imprint of J. A. Rock & Co., Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
Just got back from running 3 miles. I had no idea how stiff my legs got from living in the hospital last week. Even thought I was working and kickboxing, I sat around more than usual. I woke up with aches on the right side of my body including my shoulder, arm, and leg. now I think it must be from using the belt I put around Dad's waist to help him walk. I didn't know I used so much muscle to do this.
Now we have a monitor in Dad's room so we can hear him get up or move around. I heard him get up and ran into his room. I put on his pants and shoes for him, while he cried, because he insists that he can do this himself.
I was told that Dad is not to lean down until his hip heals. Now he's telling me that there is a cut on the side of his hip and points it out. He keeps taking off the dressing and I keep putting it back on. I make him repeat after me, "My hip has to heal. My hip has to heal."
He has no clue that he was in the hospital last week, so I haven't taken off his white bracelets yet. This way I can prove to him that he was in the hospital and that is why his hip has to heal.
Now he wants to get up and I tell him he has to use his walker. Like a stubborn child, he puts his hands on his hips, and asks why. I repeat everything about his new hip and the doctor's orders. Then, surprisingly, he gets up, picks up the walker and walks pretty steadily down the hall. He is picking up the walker instead of rolling it and we pass the belt that I've been using to help him walk. He asks me, "What is this?"
I can't believe how well he is using the walker. Then he gets into his favorite chair and puts his hand on his head. He gets a very sad look and asks, "Where is my hair?"
Now this is bad. We can't find it. Dad is bald and wears a wig. Now Jimmy and Gina and I are searching the house for it and finally find it with his necklace and his rings. His eyes sparkled as he put on his wig, necklace and rings. I had to leave and cry some joyful tears to see him so happy.
Hope you enjoyed this entry.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press an imprint of J. A. Rock & Co., Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
Sunday, October 19, 2008
The thought of the week from Alzheimer's Weekly,
Remember there is no such thing as a small act of kindness.
Every act creats a ripple with no logical end.
Scott Adams!
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An imprint of J. A. Rock & Co., Pubs
www.mariefostino.com
Remember there is no such thing as a small act of kindness.
Every act creats a ripple with no logical end.
Scott Adams!
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An imprint of J. A. Rock & Co., Pubs
www.mariefostino.com
Saturday, October 18, 2008
Good Evening,
On page 53 of my book I have it titled 'SAD THINGS ABOUT ALZHEIMER'S'
He sits in a chair, confused, not sure what he is suppose to do.
When you come into a room, he says "Hi" just as though this is the first time he's ever seen you
Sometimes he pretends that he knows you but you know it's an act...
He takes the phone and calls the same number over and over again.
He writes a phone number on a sheet of paper over and over again.
He is forever asking, "When can he go home?"
He forgets how to dial the phone.
He can no longer do simple tasks he's done all his life like make coffee.
He doesn't know or recognize relatives.
He can still tell time, but gets a.m. and p.m. mixed up.
He still thinks he has a regular job.
He wants to know when he gets paid and when he can clock off for the night.
He repeats himself over and over again.
When you think he finally understands something, five minutes later you must start all over again.
He often wants to argue and refuses to listen.
Today was a hard day, as I was at the Memory Walk in the West Vally in Sun City, Az. As I listened to the entertainment and had the sign around my neck about the one I was walking for I couldn't help but cry. It is funny how you can put some feelings away for a while, hoping that the pain is gone. But when it is quiet and you think about the past, the pain comes back. I truly miss my father in law. Not the last two years as much as the man he was before the disease took him from me. It is a wonderful feeling that there is people out there fighting to get rid of this terrible disease. Have a great weekend.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An imprint of J. A. Rock & co., Pubs
www.mariefostino.com
On page 53 of my book I have it titled 'SAD THINGS ABOUT ALZHEIMER'S'
He sits in a chair, confused, not sure what he is suppose to do.
When you come into a room, he says "Hi" just as though this is the first time he's ever seen you
Sometimes he pretends that he knows you but you know it's an act...
He takes the phone and calls the same number over and over again.
He writes a phone number on a sheet of paper over and over again.
He is forever asking, "When can he go home?"
He forgets how to dial the phone.
He can no longer do simple tasks he's done all his life like make coffee.
He doesn't know or recognize relatives.
He can still tell time, but gets a.m. and p.m. mixed up.
He still thinks he has a regular job.
He wants to know when he gets paid and when he can clock off for the night.
He repeats himself over and over again.
When you think he finally understands something, five minutes later you must start all over again.
He often wants to argue and refuses to listen.
Today was a hard day, as I was at the Memory Walk in the West Vally in Sun City, Az. As I listened to the entertainment and had the sign around my neck about the one I was walking for I couldn't help but cry. It is funny how you can put some feelings away for a while, hoping that the pain is gone. But when it is quiet and you think about the past, the pain comes back. I truly miss my father in law. Not the last two years as much as the man he was before the disease took him from me. It is a wonderful feeling that there is people out there fighting to get rid of this terrible disease. Have a great weekend.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An imprint of J. A. Rock & co., Pubs
www.mariefostino.com
Friday, October 17, 2008
Hello everyone,
What wonderful weather we have been having here in Phoenix, Az. And what wonderful weather to have a memory walk. Just want to remind you, that Saturday, October 18, 2008 is the West Vally Memory Walk, here in Phoenix. It is at the Beardsley Recreation Center. If you haven't registered to walk you can still do it Saturday morning. It is sponsored by Alzheimer's Association to help end Alzheimer's Disease.
Up coming events also to raise money for Alzheimer's in Phoenix:
Morbid Manor Charity Haunted House - Oct 29 to 31 - 6:30 to 9:30 pm
5755 N 51st Ave in Glendale
Memory Walk - November 1, 2008 Phoenix, Wesley Bolin Plaza 7:30 am
Maybe I will see you Saturday at the Memory Walk
Till Next Time,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press an imprint of J. A. Rock & Co., Pubs
www.mariefostino.com
What wonderful weather we have been having here in Phoenix, Az. And what wonderful weather to have a memory walk. Just want to remind you, that Saturday, October 18, 2008 is the West Vally Memory Walk, here in Phoenix. It is at the Beardsley Recreation Center. If you haven't registered to walk you can still do it Saturday morning. It is sponsored by Alzheimer's Association to help end Alzheimer's Disease.
Up coming events also to raise money for Alzheimer's in Phoenix:
Morbid Manor Charity Haunted House - Oct 29 to 31 - 6:30 to 9:30 pm
5755 N 51st Ave in Glendale
Memory Walk - November 1, 2008 Phoenix, Wesley Bolin Plaza 7:30 am
Maybe I will see you Saturday at the Memory Walk
Till Next Time,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press an imprint of J. A. Rock & Co., Pubs
www.mariefostino.com
Sunday, October 12, 2008
Going through the Alzheimer sites today, I read a wonderful saying. 'You can't live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you'. by John Wooden. I read this on Alzheimer'sWeekly.com And isn't it the truth!!! So remember 'Be An Angle and do random acts of kindness.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press an imprint of J. A. Rock & Co., Pubs
www.mariefostino.com
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press an imprint of J. A. Rock & Co., Pubs
www.mariefostino.com
Friday, October 10, 2008
Hey Everyone,
Here is the deal. There are two Alzheimer's Association Memory Walks coming up in the Phoenix area. One is at Sun City West 10-18-08 Berdsley Recreation Center. The Second one in Phoenix 11-1-08 Wesley Bolin Plaza. Please contact the Desert Southwest Chapter Office for more information. There address is 1028 E McDowell Rd. Phoenix, Az 85006--Phone # 602-528-0546.
Also The South Mountain/Laveen Village's Festival Inc & Wal Mart Proudly Presents the 37th, Annual South Mountain/Laveen Village Community Craft, Health, Safety and Information Fair. "It Takes a Village" Saturday, November 1st, 2008 10:00 AM to 3:00 PM. I will be there with my books.
Hope all is well. Talk to you soon.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An imprint of J. A. Rock & Co., Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
Here is the deal. There are two Alzheimer's Association Memory Walks coming up in the Phoenix area. One is at Sun City West 10-18-08 Berdsley Recreation Center. The Second one in Phoenix 11-1-08 Wesley Bolin Plaza. Please contact the Desert Southwest Chapter Office for more information. There address is 1028 E McDowell Rd. Phoenix, Az 85006--Phone # 602-528-0546.
Also The South Mountain/Laveen Village's Festival Inc & Wal Mart Proudly Presents the 37th, Annual South Mountain/Laveen Village Community Craft, Health, Safety and Information Fair. "It Takes a Village" Saturday, November 1st, 2008 10:00 AM to 3:00 PM. I will be there with my books.
Hope all is well. Talk to you soon.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An imprint of J. A. Rock & Co., Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
Wednesday, October 8, 2008
Good afternoon,
We seem to forget so easily how lucky we have it. I just had a patient who is only 26 yrs old and was shot in the back and is a quad. He breaths by a ventilator, with a trachea, and his arms and legs are contracted. Just remember that whether you are taking care of a loved one with Alzheimer's or a disability, that to the world you may be but one person but to one person you may be the world. May God Bless You.
Hope that if you are dealing with a family member with Alzheimer's that you are going to a support group for a little extra help. Remember that you are not alone. If you read my book, I would love to get some feed back on what you thought. There is some activities coming up for the awareness of Alzheimer's. It is the Alzheimer's Memory Walk.
In Sun City West - 10-18-08- Berdsley Recreation Center and Phoenix - 11-01-08 - Wesley Bolin Plaza. If you go on Alzheimer's Association you can read more information. Or call Desert Southwest Chapter Office. 602-528-0545.
Have a great day. Talk to you soon.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press an imprint of James A. Rock & Co., Publishers
www.mariefostino.com
We seem to forget so easily how lucky we have it. I just had a patient who is only 26 yrs old and was shot in the back and is a quad. He breaths by a ventilator, with a trachea, and his arms and legs are contracted. Just remember that whether you are taking care of a loved one with Alzheimer's or a disability, that to the world you may be but one person but to one person you may be the world. May God Bless You.
Hope that if you are dealing with a family member with Alzheimer's that you are going to a support group for a little extra help. Remember that you are not alone. If you read my book, I would love to get some feed back on what you thought. There is some activities coming up for the awareness of Alzheimer's. It is the Alzheimer's Memory Walk.
In Sun City West - 10-18-08- Berdsley Recreation Center and Phoenix - 11-01-08 - Wesley Bolin Plaza. If you go on Alzheimer's Association you can read more information. Or call Desert Southwest Chapter Office. 602-528-0545.
Have a great day. Talk to you soon.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press an imprint of James A. Rock & Co., Publishers
www.mariefostino.com
Saturday, October 4, 2008
Good Morning,
I want to thank every one who has gotten my book, Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal. I hope that it has helped you out, with an understanding of what to expect. Thank you also to the ones who put reviews on the different sites, like Amazon.com, and Barnes and Noble.com. This is such a good way for others to see what your input was on the book and how it helped you. I hope you understand Alzheimer's cannot be cured by putting your loved on at a mental health treatment program. That they have no control of what is happening to them. There brain is just shorting out. There is a lot of information on Alzheimer's out there, and Alzheimer's Care Centers. If you get diagnosed early there is medicine to help slow the process. It takes a lot of love, devotion and faith to care for your loved one with this disease. I took care of dad at home. I did use Alzheimer Care Facilities if we did go out of town for a little respite time. Alzheimer's Association and Alzheimer's Society are two good websites to look for on line for some great information. I miss my father in law. But I miss the old father in law before Alzheimer's took over his brain. I love to go through my pictures of the happy times we had growing up with him. And I keep his memory alive with those times, not the last couple of years. My heart goes out to you. I know you miss your loved one. Just remember that when they get mad at you, or don't have any idea who you are, it is not them. Show them you love them and hang on to the good memories.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Presss An imprint of James A. Rock & Co., Publishers
www.mariefostion.com
I want to thank every one who has gotten my book, Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal. I hope that it has helped you out, with an understanding of what to expect. Thank you also to the ones who put reviews on the different sites, like Amazon.com, and Barnes and Noble.com. This is such a good way for others to see what your input was on the book and how it helped you. I hope you understand Alzheimer's cannot be cured by putting your loved on at a mental health treatment program. That they have no control of what is happening to them. There brain is just shorting out. There is a lot of information on Alzheimer's out there, and Alzheimer's Care Centers. If you get diagnosed early there is medicine to help slow the process. It takes a lot of love, devotion and faith to care for your loved one with this disease. I took care of dad at home. I did use Alzheimer Care Facilities if we did go out of town for a little respite time. Alzheimer's Association and Alzheimer's Society are two good websites to look for on line for some great information. I miss my father in law. But I miss the old father in law before Alzheimer's took over his brain. I love to go through my pictures of the happy times we had growing up with him. And I keep his memory alive with those times, not the last couple of years. My heart goes out to you. I know you miss your loved one. Just remember that when they get mad at you, or don't have any idea who you are, it is not them. Show them you love them and hang on to the good memories.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Presss An imprint of James A. Rock & Co., Publishers
www.mariefostion.com
Wednesday, October 1, 2008
Good day everyone,
What a wonderful day that was given from God today. Hope this finds you smiling. Sitting here jamming to the oldies. Have you noticed that while you have your loved one with
Alzheimer's around, a lot of family members and friends sort of are to busy to come around. Don't be upset with them. It is hard for them to see your family member that way. They want to keep the old memories. The comfortable memories. There is no pain that way. They don't realize that you really need them right now.
Hope you are taking advantage of the great sites on the Internet. Like Alzheimer's Association, Alzheimer's Weekly, The Caregivers Voice, Our Alzheimer's.com, Alzheimer's Society, and ADEAR.
Well let's celebrate another day of living. Let's celebrate another day of LIFE!!
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
By Seaboard Press an imprint of J. A. Rock & Co., Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
What a wonderful day that was given from God today. Hope this finds you smiling. Sitting here jamming to the oldies. Have you noticed that while you have your loved one with
Alzheimer's around, a lot of family members and friends sort of are to busy to come around. Don't be upset with them. It is hard for them to see your family member that way. They want to keep the old memories. The comfortable memories. There is no pain that way. They don't realize that you really need them right now.
Hope you are taking advantage of the great sites on the Internet. Like Alzheimer's Association, Alzheimer's Weekly, The Caregivers Voice, Our Alzheimer's.com, Alzheimer's Society, and ADEAR.
Well let's celebrate another day of living. Let's celebrate another day of LIFE!!
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
By Seaboard Press an imprint of J. A. Rock & Co., Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
Sunday, September 28, 2008
What a beautiful Sunday afternoon. I want to keep Barbara in my prayers this week. I met her at Borders yesterday. She lost her husband to Alzheimer's last week and the funeral is this week. I enjoyed talking to her. I think she needed to hear from someone who has had their feet in her shoes. And I always enjoy listening to someone with their story, and how they coped. Also, Thanks Barbara for buying a book. Hope it helps, and hopefully you can share it with some of the people in your support group.
Just a reminder that if you are to shy to come out in the open with this, that their are support groups out there, and they know what you are going through and will be glad to help. Also write me, and I will try to help how ever I can.
Talk to you soon,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
by Seaboard Press an imprint of J. A. Rock & Co., Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
Just a reminder that if you are to shy to come out in the open with this, that their are support groups out there, and they know what you are going through and will be glad to help. Also write me, and I will try to help how ever I can.
Talk to you soon,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
by Seaboard Press an imprint of J. A. Rock & Co., Pubs.
www.mariefostino.com
Friday, September 26, 2008
Such a beautiful day again today. It is so different than when I lived in Chicago. Don't get me wrong. I LOVE CHICAGO. But the weather is much better here. It is the winters that I am referring to. In stead of wind and snow, mixed with rain, we have sunny sky's, most of the winter. I am excited about tomorrow because it is my first Book Signing. I want to thank Borders Book Stores, for all they have done to make this possible. I am trying to get my book out there for all to see. My book has a unique way of showing the every day living with your loved one with Alzheimer's. My book is not a how to do it book. But rather the every day issues and feelings.
I want to stress how important Respite care is and how important 'Moments' are. And remember that this is a no - win situation. Unfortunately, Alzheimer's is going to take your loved one away, no matter how hard you fight. But don't give up, and keep trying to give them the life they deserve. Faith, prayer, sleep, and exercise are also important for you and your loved one. Please find your self a support group. It is very important to know and share with other people that are doing the same as you.
I want to thank J. A Rock & Publishing for making this possible. I just think of all the years that dad helped us, and now while he is in heaven, he is still helping people. I want to thank Alzheimer's Weekly, and The CaregiversVoice.com for all there support.
Hope to see you tomorrow at Borders at 7320 W Bell Rd, in Glendale at noon to two pm. I will be happy to answer any questions or just listen if you need a ear.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
http://www.mariefostino.com/
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
Seaboard Press An imprint of J. A. Rock & Co., Pubs.
Wednesday, September 24, 2008
Good Afternoon,
I am hoping that as you look at my site you are taking advantage of the Alzheimer's sites that I have listed. They have information on subjects like, family, health, care facilities I am hoping that you are taking advantage of reading this book I put out for a good outlook on what it is like. I know that there are a lot of books out there on Alzheimer's. I think mine is just different because of the comments from my husband and children and it shows even with all the devotion we put into this, we still got aggravated. If it wasn't for our faith, we could not have gotten through this. Hope you are having a great day. Keep your head up and keep smiling. Remember be an angel and practice random acts of kindness.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretaker's Journal
Seaboard Press an imprint of James A Rock & Co. Publishers
www.mariefostino.com
I am hoping that as you look at my site you are taking advantage of the Alzheimer's sites that I have listed. They have information on subjects like, family, health, care facilities I am hoping that you are taking advantage of reading this book I put out for a good outlook on what it is like. I know that there are a lot of books out there on Alzheimer's. I think mine is just different because of the comments from my husband and children and it shows even with all the devotion we put into this, we still got aggravated. If it wasn't for our faith, we could not have gotten through this. Hope you are having a great day. Keep your head up and keep smiling. Remember be an angel and practice random acts of kindness.
Sincerely,
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretaker's Journal
Seaboard Press an imprint of James A Rock & Co. Publishers
www.mariefostino.com
Tuesday, September 23, 2008
Good Morning,
What a beautiful day for a swim. I have a solar cover on my pool, and the water is great!!! I try to get my exercise lately by swimming an hour of laps.
It is really important to take care of your self, especially when you are taking care of someone else. I found that while I was taking care of dad, I would leave the house for 30 minutes to run, and pray. I was working on my body and my mind. And I would came back home a much calmer person. Running really helps to get rid of stress. I have such great memories of dad. I know, he is my father-in-law, but he loved me like I was his daughter and I loved him back the same way.
I have this 10 minute clip that I am going to show at my book signings/discussion. (Hope to see you there.) And on it is dad working out with me and Richard Simmons. It is also important to help keep your loved on in as good shape as they will let you. It is not always easy, and you have to get creative.
Remember that as you are taking care of your loved one, you are not alone, even though you feel like you are. Try to take some time for yourself. It is very important to do for you, because if you don't, the life will be sucked out of you, and you will not be able to help any one else.
Remember, and keep the great memories that you have alive. No one can take those away from you. But when you don't recognize the person your family member has become from the terrible disease, always rely on the memory, to bring them back, even if it is only in your mind.
Remember to LIVE, LAUGH, and LOVE.
Sincerely,
Marie
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
www.mariefostino.com
What a beautiful day for a swim. I have a solar cover on my pool, and the water is great!!! I try to get my exercise lately by swimming an hour of laps.
It is really important to take care of your self, especially when you are taking care of someone else. I found that while I was taking care of dad, I would leave the house for 30 minutes to run, and pray. I was working on my body and my mind. And I would came back home a much calmer person. Running really helps to get rid of stress. I have such great memories of dad. I know, he is my father-in-law, but he loved me like I was his daughter and I loved him back the same way.
I have this 10 minute clip that I am going to show at my book signings/discussion. (Hope to see you there.) And on it is dad working out with me and Richard Simmons. It is also important to help keep your loved on in as good shape as they will let you. It is not always easy, and you have to get creative.
Remember that as you are taking care of your loved one, you are not alone, even though you feel like you are. Try to take some time for yourself. It is very important to do for you, because if you don't, the life will be sucked out of you, and you will not be able to help any one else.
Remember, and keep the great memories that you have alive. No one can take those away from you. But when you don't recognize the person your family member has become from the terrible disease, always rely on the memory, to bring them back, even if it is only in your mind.
Remember to LIVE, LAUGH, and LOVE.
Sincerely,
Marie
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
www.mariefostino.com
Sunday, September 21, 2008
Good afternoon,
It is such a lovely Sunday. At our house, after church, and after Jimmy went to work, we had 'girls day'. Of course I am missing my lovely daughter Kristina, from Oklahoma, and my lovely daughter in law Betsy, from Illinois. But I still have Jennifer, Jessica, and Regina, here with my granddaughter Adias, and we ate and went to the movies, and just sat around and chatted. Life can't get any better than that!
I want to share a poem with you today. If you have bought my book, you will reconize it, since I have it written in there. It is called 'A BEAUTIFUL PRAYER'.
I asked God to take away my habit
God said, No.
It is not for me to take away, but for you to give up.
I asked God to make my handicapped child whole.
God said, No.
His spirit is whole, his body is only temporary.
I asked God to grant me patience.
God said, No.
Patience is a by-product of tribulatioins; it isn't granted, it is learned.
I asked God to give me happiness.
God said, No.
I give you blessings; Happiness is up to you.
I asked God to spare me pain.
God said, No.
Suffering draws you apart from worldly cares and brings you closer to me.
I asked God to make my spirit grow.
God said, No.
You must grow on our own! But I will prune you to make you fruitful.
I asked God for all things that I might enjoy life.
God said, No.
I will give you life, so that you may enjoy all things.
I asked God to help me LOVE others, as much as he loves me.
God said. . . AHH, finally you have the idea.
I hope you like this poem. Don't take life for granted. It is a gift, and that is why today is called the present. Have a great Sunday. Talk to you soon.
Sincerely,
Marie
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
www.mariefostino.com
It is such a lovely Sunday. At our house, after church, and after Jimmy went to work, we had 'girls day'. Of course I am missing my lovely daughter Kristina, from Oklahoma, and my lovely daughter in law Betsy, from Illinois. But I still have Jennifer, Jessica, and Regina, here with my granddaughter Adias, and we ate and went to the movies, and just sat around and chatted. Life can't get any better than that!
I want to share a poem with you today. If you have bought my book, you will reconize it, since I have it written in there. It is called 'A BEAUTIFUL PRAYER'.
I asked God to take away my habit
God said, No.
It is not for me to take away, but for you to give up.
I asked God to make my handicapped child whole.
God said, No.
His spirit is whole, his body is only temporary.
I asked God to grant me patience.
God said, No.
Patience is a by-product of tribulatioins; it isn't granted, it is learned.
I asked God to give me happiness.
God said, No.
I give you blessings; Happiness is up to you.
I asked God to spare me pain.
God said, No.
Suffering draws you apart from worldly cares and brings you closer to me.
I asked God to make my spirit grow.
God said, No.
You must grow on our own! But I will prune you to make you fruitful.
I asked God for all things that I might enjoy life.
God said, No.
I will give you life, so that you may enjoy all things.
I asked God to help me LOVE others, as much as he loves me.
God said. . . AHH, finally you have the idea.
I hope you like this poem. Don't take life for granted. It is a gift, and that is why today is called the present. Have a great Sunday. Talk to you soon.
Sincerely,
Marie
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
www.mariefostino.com
Friday, September 19, 2008
What a beautiful day it is today. Here in sunny Arizona, it finally is cooler, with a slight wind, yet warm without being hot. My book signing is coming up next week and I am pretty excited. I know, some of you are saying what is so special about my book. My book is on the human side of Alzheimer's. The every day trials, frustrations, and blessings. My book let's you see first hand what a day is like. From the first stage down to the third stage. It shows you how we are human, and how we feel sadness, and loneliness, but also how we are blessed. I hope I have expressed in my book, how important it is to get respite care, to get your piece of mind back. That it is alright to say you can't do this alone. Hopefully I have given ideas on activities for your loved one with Alzheimer's to help make them feel like they are contributing. Just think how sad you would feel if you could not help with anything at home. And how important it is to have hospice come in at the final stages and help out. I will share some of my book but will also ask if any one has any questions and hopefully I can answer them or point you in the right direction to answer them. Also if anyone wants to share any experience they are going through, that would be great! So remember a week from Saturday, September 27, from noon to two pm at the Borders at 7320 W Bell Ave, in Glendale. Hope to see you there. And remember to smile and enjoy your day. - Marie
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
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Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
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Thursday, September 18, 2008
Good morning,
In case you don't know, I work on an ambulance. It can be pretty rough, but I love what I do because I do inner facility. That means I go to nursing homes, or urgent cares and hospitals. I am not your lights and siren ambulance. I am your friend, hold your hand ambulance. Well at 3 am this morning, I got a call to go to a nursing home to pick up a patient to bring him to a hospital that was almost 20 miles away. This patient is running a fever, and is on antibiotics, so the nursing facility is really worried about him. As we enter the room, he is not very happy to see us. Well who would blame him, it is 3 am and he should be sleeping. When the nurse came in he was very hostile towards her and told her to leave, and she did. My partner and I sheet lifted him off his bed and onto our gurney. As we were going to leave the building, I decided that maybe I should put in my IV before going to the truck. My patient was not happy with us taking vitals, but especially not happy to be poked in the arm with a needle, as he was swearing at me, and swinging punches at me. And well needless to say, I did not get the IV in. But I can vividly remember one Christmas Eve when I had to leave to pick up a couple of my kids from the airport and dad did not want to go.
It happened on December 24, 2002 - I told dad that we were going to the airport to pick up his grandchildren. He decided that he was not going with me, and when I told him he didn't have a choice he began yelling and screaming and swearing, and went to the floor, refusing to budge. As my son grabbed his waist and I grabbed his legs, dad got ahold of my hair and began pulling, while yelling for the police.
My partner was afraid for me, and asked me to sit in the captains chair behind the patient so that he would not hurt me. But I could see my father in law all over again, so I just did my vitals and held his hand through the drive. Poor thing, every time the blood pressure cuff would go off, and squeeze his arm, he would give me a nasty look, and than start squeezing my hand harder and harder. As it would ease up, than his grip would ease up also.
Alzheimer's is such an awful disease. The hardest part is to remember that it takes over your loved one, with out permission. All you can do is be there for them. Remember that life is a gift from God, so obey his will and enjoy his gift, and live each five minutes like it is your last.
Sincerely,
Marie
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
www.mariefostino.com
In case you don't know, I work on an ambulance. It can be pretty rough, but I love what I do because I do inner facility. That means I go to nursing homes, or urgent cares and hospitals. I am not your lights and siren ambulance. I am your friend, hold your hand ambulance. Well at 3 am this morning, I got a call to go to a nursing home to pick up a patient to bring him to a hospital that was almost 20 miles away. This patient is running a fever, and is on antibiotics, so the nursing facility is really worried about him. As we enter the room, he is not very happy to see us. Well who would blame him, it is 3 am and he should be sleeping. When the nurse came in he was very hostile towards her and told her to leave, and she did. My partner and I sheet lifted him off his bed and onto our gurney. As we were going to leave the building, I decided that maybe I should put in my IV before going to the truck. My patient was not happy with us taking vitals, but especially not happy to be poked in the arm with a needle, as he was swearing at me, and swinging punches at me. And well needless to say, I did not get the IV in. But I can vividly remember one Christmas Eve when I had to leave to pick up a couple of my kids from the airport and dad did not want to go.
It happened on December 24, 2002 - I told dad that we were going to the airport to pick up his grandchildren. He decided that he was not going with me, and when I told him he didn't have a choice he began yelling and screaming and swearing, and went to the floor, refusing to budge. As my son grabbed his waist and I grabbed his legs, dad got ahold of my hair and began pulling, while yelling for the police.
My partner was afraid for me, and asked me to sit in the captains chair behind the patient so that he would not hurt me. But I could see my father in law all over again, so I just did my vitals and held his hand through the drive. Poor thing, every time the blood pressure cuff would go off, and squeeze his arm, he would give me a nasty look, and than start squeezing my hand harder and harder. As it would ease up, than his grip would ease up also.
Alzheimer's is such an awful disease. The hardest part is to remember that it takes over your loved one, with out permission. All you can do is be there for them. Remember that life is a gift from God, so obey his will and enjoy his gift, and live each five minutes like it is your last.
Sincerely,
Marie
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
www.mariefostino.com
Good Day everyone,
Have you looked at Alzheimer's Weekly yet? This site is full of information from Alzheimer's introduction to warning signs and planning for the future. This site has six tabs with the names: Home-News-Boards-Basics-Sites and Search. When you hit a tab it scrolls down with move tabs on various points of interest. It also has Ask Ann and Ask Nurse Dina. This site has a board with discussions between people with Alzheimer's. I was reading about Aricept and the side effects. Nurse Dina wrote, she heard from patients and other readers that Aricept sometimes creates temporary side effects that can be disturbing. Most of the time it was behavioral. This hits home with me as when I put dad on Aricept he became more combative so I discontinued it.
This site was created to serve the Alzheimer's community, wheather you are living with Alzheimer's, A caregiver, or just concerned with prevention or early testing. I highly recomend this site to any one dealing dealing with this disease.
The only way to retain love is to give it away, by Elbert Green Hubbard.
Thank you,
Marie
Alzheimer's A Caregivers Journal
mariefostino.com
Have you looked at Alzheimer's Weekly yet? This site is full of information from Alzheimer's introduction to warning signs and planning for the future. This site has six tabs with the names: Home-News-Boards-Basics-Sites and Search. When you hit a tab it scrolls down with move tabs on various points of interest. It also has Ask Ann and Ask Nurse Dina. This site has a board with discussions between people with Alzheimer's. I was reading about Aricept and the side effects. Nurse Dina wrote, she heard from patients and other readers that Aricept sometimes creates temporary side effects that can be disturbing. Most of the time it was behavioral. This hits home with me as when I put dad on Aricept he became more combative so I discontinued it.
This site was created to serve the Alzheimer's community, wheather you are living with Alzheimer's, A caregiver, or just concerned with prevention or early testing. I highly recomend this site to any one dealing dealing with this disease.
The only way to retain love is to give it away, by Elbert Green Hubbard.
Thank you,
Marie
Alzheimer's A Caregivers Journal
mariefostino.com
Wednesday, September 17, 2008
Good Morning,
Have you looked at TheCaregiversvoice.com yet? This is a wonderful site full of information to help you while taking care of your family member with Alzheimer's. People write in about their family situations and how they delt with them. Brenda Avadian, whom this site belongs to, has experience with taking care of a loved one. She moved from Wisconsin to California, to take care of her dad with Alzheimer's till his death. She is an inspirational speaker that talks about the hardships of caregiving with joyful experiences. She has a monthly advice column, and a column to voice your questions. This is a must to read. Her mission is to support groups and organizations that help people with Alzheimer's and their families.
Sincerely,
Marie
Alzheime's A Caretakers Journal
mariefostion.com
Have you looked at TheCaregiversvoice.com yet? This is a wonderful site full of information to help you while taking care of your family member with Alzheimer's. People write in about their family situations and how they delt with them. Brenda Avadian, whom this site belongs to, has experience with taking care of a loved one. She moved from Wisconsin to California, to take care of her dad with Alzheimer's till his death. She is an inspirational speaker that talks about the hardships of caregiving with joyful experiences. She has a monthly advice column, and a column to voice your questions. This is a must to read. Her mission is to support groups and organizations that help people with Alzheimer's and their families.
Sincerely,
Marie
Alzheime's A Caretakers Journal
mariefostion.com
Tuesday, September 16, 2008
Hello again,
I was just checking out the web site: ouralzheimer's.com. They have some wonderful information on drugs for Alzheimer's. And I thought I would share it with you. They have a caution which states: if you've been diagnosed with Alzheimer's, your doctor may pescribe a specific drug regimen. Every person is different, so your treatment will be tailored to your needs.
The five Drugs featured:
Aricept Oral - Cognex Oral - Exelon Oral - Nemenda Oral - Reminyl Oral
They all seem to want to improve memory, awareness, the ability to function in every day life. None of them cures Alzheimer's Disease.
You need to talk to your doctor on which medicine you should give to your loved one to help with their quality of life.
For more information on these drugs go on: OurAlzheimer's.com
Thank you and remember that life is a gift, so make each day count!
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
mariefostino.com
I was just checking out the web site: ouralzheimer's.com. They have some wonderful information on drugs for Alzheimer's. And I thought I would share it with you. They have a caution which states: if you've been diagnosed with Alzheimer's, your doctor may pescribe a specific drug regimen. Every person is different, so your treatment will be tailored to your needs.
The five Drugs featured:
Aricept Oral - Cognex Oral - Exelon Oral - Nemenda Oral - Reminyl Oral
They all seem to want to improve memory, awareness, the ability to function in every day life. None of them cures Alzheimer's Disease.
You need to talk to your doctor on which medicine you should give to your loved one to help with their quality of life.
For more information on these drugs go on: OurAlzheimer's.com
Thank you and remember that life is a gift, so make each day count!
Marie Fostino
Alzheimer's A Caretakers Journal
mariefostino.com
Monday, September 15, 2008
Good Afternoon,
Just an FYI to any one interested in locating a support group. Alzheimer's Association has chapters all over. Since I live in the area of Phoenix, I looked up Central Arizona. I was able to find chapters in a lot of cities in Central Phoenix. They have the time, with the address and how often they meet.
SUPPORT GROUPS provide a place to help the caregiver and able to share their feelings, concnerns, and possible antidotes. It is a place of encouragement and information. I encorage anyone taking care of a loved one with Alzheimer's to please find a support group. It is important to know that you are not alone. It is nice to hear that someone is going through what you are going through and they understand. And it is such a wonderful feeling when you can share something to help someone else out.
Thank you for reading this and You are in my prayers. Remember that to the world you are only one person, but to that one person you may be their world.
Sincerely,
Marie
Just an FYI to any one interested in locating a support group. Alzheimer's Association has chapters all over. Since I live in the area of Phoenix, I looked up Central Arizona. I was able to find chapters in a lot of cities in Central Phoenix. They have the time, with the address and how often they meet.
SUPPORT GROUPS provide a place to help the caregiver and able to share their feelings, concnerns, and possible antidotes. It is a place of encouragement and information. I encorage anyone taking care of a loved one with Alzheimer's to please find a support group. It is important to know that you are not alone. It is nice to hear that someone is going through what you are going through and they understand. And it is such a wonderful feeling when you can share something to help someone else out.
Thank you for reading this and You are in my prayers. Remember that to the world you are only one person, but to that one person you may be their world.
Sincerely,
Marie
Sunday, September 14, 2008
Thursday, September 11, 2008
Welcome to My Blog!
Hi everyone! My name is Marie Fostino! I am the author of "Alzheimer's: A Caretaker's Journal." I currently reside in the beautiful state of Arizona. I will be using this site to add some of my personal feelings about my book and life in general. I hope you all enjoy this site. If you like this site, I encourage you to visit the site for my book at http://www.mariefostino.com. I have lots of great information on Alzheimer's Disease and what it's like being a caregiver.
Thanks for your time.
Love,
Marie
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Thanks for your time.
Love,
Marie
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